Do you want to emotionally hurt your husband’s mistress? please read this first

I get a lot of emails from women who want to “get revenge” or “hurt” their husband’s lover. Many ask me what is the most effective way to hurt this other woman. They want her to feel the pain they have felt and they want her to regret choosing her husband as her target. They want my advice on the best way to do this.

In response, I always have to say that I never feel it is in anyone’s best interest to try to physically hurt this woman. This will only lead to a whole new set of troubling issues, and often will only open new doors that won’t give you the closure you want, but instead bring a new round of anger and regret. As you come up with a plan on how to affect her negatively, you should also consider what will affect you most positively.

Most women want to hurt this other person in an attempt to make themselves feel better. So you always want to think about yourself before you think about her. You don’t want to mistakenly rack up more pain in your attempts to get back at her. This is a right way and a wrong way to do this, in my opinion. I will discuss more about this matter in the next article.

Determining what the lover wants most and then trying to take those things away from her to hurt her as a result: Let’s be smart about this. The first logical step is to determine what you want most and what you most fear losing. Many times, the answer to this is going to be your husband. Now, whether you want to take him away from her will depend on how you feel about your marriage. Some wives want to preserve this at all costs and some women finally decide that they can have the husband.

You will have to decide which category you fall into. If you fall into the category of wanting to save your marriage, then it stands to reason that the thing that would hurt the lover the most is for you and your husband to find a way to get back to being happy and having a strong marriage. The result of these two things will make her no longer in your life.

This is often what he fears the most. Sometimes she wants your husband to leave you and be with her. Foiling this plan is usually sweet revenge, but it’s only healthy and beneficial for you if this is what you really want and know it will be healthy for you. Your happiness is far more important than your revenge against her, which brings me to my next point.

Often creating your own happiness and the best life will be the best and most painful revenge against the mistress: Let’s think about this for a second. What kind of woman would need to take advantage of someone else’s husband? Probably someone who lacks self-esteem and is in desperate need of attention, right? We’re talking about someone who doesn’t have the greatest amount of integrity and grace (at least in general terms). And we’re talking about someone who doesn’t have the higher standards and respect for boundaries that others have. establish.

This person is potentially lacking in many ways. Many women fear that the mistress is superior to them in some way, but this is rarely true. We often talk about someone with a lot of problems and self-doubt. It is quite possible that he has created an image that exudes confidence, but this is often quite false and untrue. Sure, she wants to believe that she’s special and unique, but it certainly must torment her to know that this relationship isn’t exclusive at all, and that she’s the lover, not her wife.

And when you carry yourself with integrity and grace, honestly, it irritates her that much more. Many times, she wants nothing more than to know that she has caused you pain and self-doubt. Don’t give him this kind of power over you. The stronger you are, the weaker she becomes. Her well-being, her peace of mind, and her happiness will often irritate her more than anything she can say or do.

Honestly, hanging out with her will often let you know that she’s messed with you. If you can make her think that you and her husband are moving away without a second thought, this will often be more painful for her than any plan you come up with.

I know how tempting it is to want to confront her and cause her physical pain. But this almost never works out, nor does it usually give you the closure and relief you want. Instead, she just assures him that she has power over you. It is often much better to put her where she belongs, that she is out of your life and as far out of your mind as you can manage.