How to get the girl you want: the attraction killer to avoid and some strategies for success

It is one of the greatest tragedies in life. When you only want one girl, it becomes much more difficult to get her.

No matter how player some guys are, we’ve all had the girl we want. It could be that hot babe in your office that you’ve fallen in love with. Or it could be that beautiful woman in your college class that you dream of having as the perfect girlfriend.

You see, a lot of times guys are wrong to focus on just one girl. That’s because having that narrow focus kills any attraction he may have for you. This attraction killer is … FEELING NEEDED AND DESPERATE.

When you are needy and desperate, and you start to think that any girl is unique, you become the cartoon lover, the skunk Pepe Le Pieux who chases the cat. And your chances of success are about the same as his.

So, with that in mind, in this article you will learn strategies on how to stop killing the natural attraction that that special girl has for you. Then you will learn how to maximize your chances of get the girl you want.

Strategy n. # 1: realizing that other girls are as special as her

Don’t worry about that girl. I promise you that while she may be amazing, there are plenty of other girls who are just as cool as her.

No matter what good quality you are (silky hair? Good in the kitchen? Do you have a sense of humor?), There are millions of other hot women with exactly the same good quality.

This comes from massive experience … not just from my two and a half decades dating hundreds and hundreds of women, but from comparing grades with other guys who are good with girls.

Believe me when I tell you that there is literally NOTHING a woman has that is exclusive ONLY to her.

So don’t worry about how special it is. Of course she is special, many girls are!

The last thing you want to cross your mind when you’re around a girl is, “God, I MUST have this girl! She’s irreplaceable!”

So, you are free to think that she is amazing. Just remember that a lot of other girls are amazing too. That way you won’t feel too needy.

Strategy n. # 2: dating other women to get that girl

Now, I know it’s hard not to care about a woman if she’s the only dating prospect in your life right now. So the solution is to date other girls. This will pay you benefits in other ways as well, using a basic principle of psychology to increase your “value.” I will explain.

You see, whenever a woman sees that other girls are attracted to a boy, she is also attracted. Psychologically, this is known as the “social proof” phenomenon … and it is much more powerful in women than in men.

For women, the most attractive guy is the one who is surrounded by other women. So ironically, the best way to make this special girl attracted to you is for her to find out that she would have to compete with other women.

That way you become a challenge. She is the one who has to win your affection, not the other way around.

Strategy n. # 3: change your mindset about women to get that girl

A simple change in your attitude will heal your feelings of need and despair for any particular woman. Warning: it is politically incorrect. However, it is effective and ironically it will maximize your chances of getting it.

That change is this … starting to see girls as “a woman with many faces.” That way you won’t get too wrapped up in ONE chick.

If you know the players, you know, those guys who have slept with dozens of women and can get any girl they want, you will find that that is the exact attitude that all of them have.

So forget about coming from a frame of need. A better frame to go is the mindset that you have great value, and whatever attention you give her has been WON by her. That way, even if she’s the only girl you want, you’ll avoid the attraction killer and have the best chance of success.