How to use your girl power to lose weight

Living in a culture dominated by masculine energy, we are accused that action is more important than reflection; doing being more essential than being; money and material success are much more valuable than maintaining strong and healthy relationships. Has valuing the logical and voluntary over the intuitive and enriching caused us unnecessary suffering? Is it time to reassess how we solve our problems, especially our national fight against weight? Would embracing our feminine strengths create more harmonious results?

In another time and place, embracing our feminine strengths would have come naturally. Those who live in cultures that respect the divine feminine are far less challenged in embracing the wisdom our feminine nature has to offer. But we live in a culture that teaches us to rely almost exclusively on our masculine nature. Your masculine nature calls on you to be logical, rational, and action-oriented. He likes to make things happen and LOVES to be in control. He will even suppress, reject, or discard your feminine nature in order to remain the captain of your ship. It’s true; your masculine side is sometimes a bully. He likes to see things in black and white. He often doesn’t pay attention to subtleties and nuances and can easily ignore the needs of your feminine side.

Your feminine power, on the other hand, is quietly strong. She will never fight. She doesn’t feel the need to force you to do anything. She is the keeper of your dreams and she believes in signs and symbols. She speaks the language of emotions and uses creativity to express her inner wisdom. She is not afraid to make decisions based on her intuition because she knows that she is connected to the source of all life. When you allow your masculine side to dominate your feminine nature, you dismiss your dreams as nonsense. If he is hurt, he judges himself too sensitive and insists that he has no valid reason to feel that way. You think you need to change to be happy. You yourself will be better. You diet, you exercise, you budget, you shop, and you force yourself to become a better, sexier, richer, stronger, leaner, younger version of YOU. He tries to muster all his strength to stay focused, stay on track, and deny anything that isn’t part of his masculine nature’s idea of ​​success. In the end, you spend your energy trying to control everything because you believe that you will eventually become a better you.

Allowing your feminine power to lead the way can be so much more rewarding. This is not to say that you should devalue your masculine side. Valuing one side over the other is not the answer, but to achieve balance, you will have to give your masculine nature a new role. Instead of being in control, you should use it to support the direction of your feminine power. Let her be the captain. She will become the wind that fills her sails. Without him, she can’t go anywhere. But without it, your ship goes round and round in circles without ever reaching your destination.

Your masculine nature prefers to stay on the surface of things. Only your feminine nature knows how to go deep and move within. Without it, you’ll always be stuck in one happiness trap after another, trying to achieve one laborious goal after another in the hope that the changes you’re seeking will eventually lead to happiness. The gentle wisdom of your feminine power points your ship in another direction: inward, toward the source of true happiness. From there, his masculine nature can take over and do what needs to be done in this world. But instead of your actions being rooted in emptiness, lack, and the desire to be different, everything you do is motivated by understanding, love, and compassion.

The way their masculine and feminine natures approach their fight against the weight shows just how different each side is. Being action oriented and concerned only with results, when your masculine side is in control, the response to your fight against the weight is decisive. It is logical and rational. You are overweight because you eat too much and do not exercise. Consume less. Move more. Simple. Now just do it. It doesn’t matter why you overeat or feel unmotivated to exercise. It only matters that you yourself want to be better.

Your feminine side digs a little deeper and wonders, what is the real cause of this problem? When you let him lead the way, the journey becomes just as important as the destination. The wise woman in you always asks you to question your motivation. Is your desire to change rooted in self-hatred? Do you want to change because you have flaws and can’t agree with the way you are now? Is this useful? She asks you to let go of your need to fix the ‘problem’. Instead, she encourages him to approach her struggle with kindness and use it as an opportunity to get to know himself better. Her soft and gentle approach lets you know that she loves you just the way you are and nothing you do will make you better because in her eyes you are perfect. You are flawless. Then she reminds you that when you see what she sees, the changes you want will come effortlessly. They will happen naturally. You don’t have to force yourself to lose weight. You don’t have to want it to be. When you love yourself deeply and completely, your actions will naturally be rooted in the desire to take care of yourself. This is the perfect time for your masculine energy to come back on the scene. When your feminine power leads, he can work harmoniously with her. He will become the power that drives her actions and what needs to be done will be based on love, compassion and wisdom.

Being the unconditionally loving and ever understanding fountain of wisdom that it is, your feminine self will never force your masculine self to step aside. She would never usurp power from her. It’s just not her way. She is still and silent and she prefers to just be. She patiently waits for you to let go of control. She waits until you are ready to trust her. You can dismiss her, suppress her and try to control her and she will still love you and wait until you are ready to work with her. Thanks to her, the physical changes you make will last. No longer will you cover up your problems with temporary band-aids. She will help transform the cause of disharmony. Without it, you might be thinner but you wouldn’t be intrinsically different in any other way, and the cause of your weight struggle would still exist. It would not conveniently disappear. It would continue to show up in your life in one form or another and you would eventually have to deal with it, even if your size 6 jeans eventually fit you.

Not only to lose weight but also to cure the root of the problem, your feminine power must be the captain of your ship and your masculine nature must learn to follow suit. Your power to act needs to come from the right place. If it were up to him, he would act without regard to why he is doing what he is doing. The physical results would be all he cared about. Only your wise feminine nature knows that physical results motivated by self-love are very different than physical results achieved by self-hatred.

Who is the captain of your ship? Who has been in charge and are you moving in the direction you ultimately want to go?