Importance of consistency in dating

Congruence is important in dating. Has he ever met someone who he thought was the most moral and ethical person in the world and never missed an opportunity to remind them?

Something annoying, huh? Especially when you start to examine their behavior and discover that what they call “ethics and morals” conveniently explains their bad behavior. If you want to be a man who not only attracts women, but keeps them, your words and behavior have to match. Incongruence is always an attraction killer.

Incongruity occurs when there is a gap between words and behavior, and the wider

the bigger the gap, the bigger the inconsistency (politicians, especially those who advocate higher taxes while cheating the tax man, are the perfect example of this).

What you want to do is make sure that there is a minimal gap, a gap that you are always striving to close. No one is going to be perfect 100% of the time, but those who strive to be are much more consistent than those who aren’t.

Women notice men who go to great lengths to match their deeds and words. Most men don’t; in fact, they do just the opposite, talking outright, talking about their own superiority, and making promises they can’t possibly keep.

What happens is that women quickly notice that the words and behavior do not match, and they are disappointed once again. But when she meets a man whose words and demeanor match, it’s a different story: He recognizes him as weird and is more likely to stick around.

Now notice that I said that words and behavior must match, not that you have to promise the moon and then deliver it. If most men would simply scale back their conversations and proclamations, limiting them to what they really have to offer and who they really are, warts and all, they would instantly become more attractive to women.

Sure, you should strive to become an honorable man and you should strive to achieve things, but let your actions speak for you. Women will notice without you saying anything, and in this case, silence speaks louder than words. Remember, women love integrity and consistency in men.

Let other lesser men chatter while you quietly go about your business, synchronizing your words and deeds while wondering why you attract so many women and they don’t. Let your congruence be your calling card in your love life.