Men, Here’s A Reason Your Wife’s Sex Drive Dipped After Marriage

After finally deciding to commit his life to a woman in marriage… After saying “I do”… After the honeymoon ends… And, when married life begins… most of men want to be good friends. , pleasant, accommodating, helpful and accommodating husband.

And unfortunately, for many men, that’s when the problems start. In fact, it’s not unusual for it to be only a matter of a few weeks or a few months before a man begins to think that getting married was a BIG mistake.

This is what I want you to realize, there is a right way to be a good husband. And, there is a wrong way to be a good husband.

We are going to explore…

Imagine a newlywed Mr. and Mrs. Jones returning from her honeymoon… She returns to her afternoon job (3 pm to 11 pm). And he goes back to his daily work (8 am to 5 pm).

Because she is free during the day, Mrs. Jones “sweetly” asks Mr. Jones if he would mind doing a little chore or errand for her “since he is free during the day.”

And, since Mr. Jones wants to be a “good” husband, he happily agrees to do homework or errands.

But, of course, there is a lot to do in the “running” of a home/house/marriage. And of course, Mrs. Jones keeps adding one thing after another to Mr. Jones’s chore and errand list.

Before you know it, Mr. Jones is doing most of the housework. He is cleaning the house, washing the dishes, doing the laundry, doing the shopping, leading all the wanderings…

And then Mr. Jones goes to work.

Later, Mrs. Jones comes home from work. And she is tired from working all day. So, she sits down, watches the soap operas that she taped during the day or watches any late-night sitcom that she likes, and then she goes to bed.

Subsequently, Mr. Jones returns home from work, hoping to find Mrs. Jones feeling a bit intimate, only to find that she is fast asleep or “not in the mood” or “too tired” or ” I have to get up early in the morning.”

And, before long, no matter what Mr. Jones does, no matter how far he strays from his path, no matter what or how many sacrifices he makes, no matter what help he offers or gives… IT’S NEVER ENOUGH!

And of course it goes without saying that if something goes wrong, is forgotten or neglected, then by default it is ALWAYS Mr. Jones’s fault.

And the fights begin…

But then, they make up and Mrs. Jones asks Mr. Jones for a cat because she loves cats and PROMISES she will take care of the cat; it will be YOUR responsibility for him…

And again, Mr. Jones wants to be a good husband and, although he doesn’t like cats, he agrees to help Mrs. Jones find the “perfect” cat…

$300 later, they found that “purrr-fect” cat…

And a few days later, Mr. Jones is the only one taking care of the cat… besides everything else he takes care of.

By wanting to be a “good” husband, Mr. Jones has ALLOWED himself to be responsible for EVERYTHING while Mrs. Jones has stopped being responsible for EVERYTHING in the house.

For Mr. Jones, this is a BIG problem.

to Mrs. Jones, NO problem…everything is exactly how she likes it and wants it.

Sadly, some men spend their entire lives living like this…

Men, here’s your OPENING CALL: A woman is never attracted to a “pushing” man who responds and reacts to her every whim, request, or demand.

Or, more clearly, a woman is never interested in sex with a “pushing” man. She is too busy fantasizing about having sex with a strong, masculine man to be interested in having sex with her “little” husband of hers.

Now, I’m not suggesting that men shouldn’t help around the house or that men shouldn’t do chores because they should…

In other words, the opposite of this story, where the woman bears all the household responsibilities while the man accepts none of them, doesn’t work either.

Going back to our story… The fact is that Mr. Jones should do certain chores before going to work. And, Mrs. Jones must do certain chores when she gets home from work.

In simple terms, housework should be divided fairly and equally. If Mr. Jones wants to be a “good” husband, he must lead the conversation and establish what is fair and equitable given his circumstances and arrangements.

If you had done this at the beginning of the marriage, then it is unlikely that there would have been any problems.

But now… Now that Mrs. Jones expects him to be her “servant”, there is a problem…

It will take time and a quiet confrontation for Mr. Jones to “retrain” her and “reset” her expectations for her role in the marriage.

For example, if Mrs. Jones doesn’t do her share of chores when she gets home; those chores that you agreed to in conversation that she would do, then Mr. Jones IMMEDIATELY stop doing any chores or errands that belong to Mrs. Jones, for example, let’s say she no longer does any of her laundry.

Similarly, if Ms. Jones chooses to criticize and criticize something that Mr. Jones has done, then Mr. Jones IMMEDIATELY stops doing that for her. Again, using the laundry example, if she doesn’t like something about how he does her laundry, then he immediately, without fuss or fanfare, stops doing it.

It will be one less thing for Mr. Jones to do and it won’t take Mrs. Jones long to start to “get” that she has to do her part and she has to do it in a NICE way.

As another example, if Mrs. Jones does not take responsibility for her “cat”, Mr. Jones may calmly and politely give her a warning reminder, after which Mr. Jones simply disposes of the cat.

Now, Mrs. Jones may “throw a tantrum,” maybe even a “big tantrum,” but she will get the message loud and clear that there is zero tolerance from her husband when she doesn’t “align” and “carry out.” ” your part. of the load

And here is the best part…

This NEW Mr. Jones will begin to feel much better about himself…

And, Mrs. Jones will begin to feel much more sexually attracted to this NEW man: the NEW Mr. Jones.

One last thing, some women are so used to getting their way that they literally throw almost ANY kind of tantrum to get their way when resisted. A man needs to wait for this to be able to handle it calmly.

As an example, Mrs. Jones may go so far as to threaten Mr. Jones with divorce if he doesn’t let her have her way…

This is where many men break down, especially when children are involved, and when he breaks down, Mrs. Jones then knows that she is TOTALLY IN CONTROL of her husband, and his tyranny will not only continue, but escalate to an even worse level.

When confronted by a Mrs. Jones, it would be best if Mr. Jones calmly reminded Mrs. Jones that:

or he loves her

o A marriage requires two people to carry their share of the load and work TOGETHER

o Have talked and mutually agreed which part of the load was who to carry

o He expects whoever is married to him to bear his share of the burden just as he expects him to bear his share of the burden

Oh Mrs. Jones always has the prerogative to choose whether she wants to carry her share of the load WITH him or go somewhere else because she doesn’t want to carry her share of the load, and she must decide right now once and for all which way she wants. she wants it to be.

Most of the time, Mrs. Jones will be surprised at her selfish little game. She will WAKE UP to how much she respects and admires her husband, and how sexy and attractive he really is.

And, in that rare case where Mrs. Jones actually makes good on her threat and leaves, well, dude, she was going to leave anyway, it was just a matter of time. It’s to your advantage to get this over with so you can start your life over again, with someone who isn’t a selfish brat.

Copyright 2008, article by Calle Zorro