Single and pregnant: What do you do when he wants an abortion but you don’t?

Who would have thought that saying the words “I’m pregnant” would make me experience a broken heart and fall into a deep depression?

After I told her I was pregnant, my daughter’s father insisted that I have an abortion, even asking me to put my daughter up for adoption. I repeatedly told him no, but that didn’t stop him. He then resorted to emotional abuse and reminded me of how messed up my life was at the time.

I was under so much stress during pregnancy that all I could do was eat and sleep. After giving my baby’s father a few words about how my life was already ruined and bringing another child into this world would only delay my fight, I agreed to have an abortion.

For the first time in a long time, my daughter’s father and I were sitting in the abortion clinic having a normal conversation like we used to do before we got pregnant. I was at peace with the decision to abort my baby and move on with my life.

As I headed around the back and into a room to get ready for the procedure, I felt at peace, which was weird because I had never had an abortion before, so why was I so calm?
The doctor came into the room and looked at the baby and how long he was on the monitor. I saw the doctor take a second look at the screen, and then he asked me, “Do you really want to go through with this?” Why do you say that? was my response “You are 17 weeks pregnant not 12 so if you have this procedure it will be a two day procedure and it will cost $5,000”. So I jumped off the table and started putting on my clothes. I advised the doctor that I would not go through with the procedure because deep down I really wanted to keep my baby, I was very stressed about my baby’s father. I went out to the waiting room and returned the money to my daughter’s father and told him I’m sorry friend, I’m not going to have an abortion.

Here are some tips to help you if you feel pressured to abort your child:

1. Know what you want. If you want to keep your baby, stand firm and stay with your baby.
2. Never make an emotional decision under pressure that you may later regret. Ask your baby’s father to give you time and space to talk about what you want and what’s best for you and your child, and use that time to clarify the things you want to do about your unborn baby.
3. Be okay with him leaving and not being a part of your child’s life if you choose to keep your baby.
4. Know that as you take care of your children, God will take care of you.
5. Form a circle of support to help her on her motherhood journey.

In conclusion, never let someone pressure you into making a decision you don’t want to make. Keep your baby. The Bible says “Children are a blessing from the Lord.” Celebrate your blessing and let God take care of the rest.