Through the eyes of a child

Coming from a young adult, divorce is not the best experience someone can go through. For those who have gone through or are now experiencing divorce as a child or young adult, you are not in this alone. Divorce is a harsh word for some who have experienced it with their parents or relatives, or who are going through it themselves. Dealing with divorce between fighting siblings, taking sides with parents or families can be very exhausting. Some think that marriage can be happiness and last a lifetime. You have your ups and downs, and they keep you going with that person and your family. Unfortunately, divorce has become common in the United States. According to the CDC, in 2011 the number of marriages was 2,118,000, the marriage rate was 6.8 per 1,000 total population, and the divorce rate was 3.6 per 1,000 total population. In the 2011 US Divorce Rates Map, rates are highest in the following cities; Panama, FL, Sierra Vista, AZ and Charleston, WV, Medford, OR, Reno, NV. Even as social scientists have tried to debunk these myths, somehow the conventional wisdom has held.

In Black’s Law Dictionary it defines divorce as (a legal separation of a man and a woman, carried out, for cause, by sentence of a court, and another that totally dissolves the marital relationship and suspends its effects as regards cohabitation ) When children are involved, things can get complicated in determining who acquires the children on weekends, vacations, summer, and during school years. Even for couples for whom divorce seems imminent, that doesn’t negate the need to work together on behalf of the children. Children (and adult children) have the attitude that their parents should be able to work and solve any problem. Parents, who have given life to children, are perceived by children as very competent people with supernatural abilities to meet the needs of children. The financial part of the divorce is where the court determines who is awarded alimony or child support.

During a divorce, changes in relationships can cause division among family and friends. For divorce, there are pros and cons, but know that you are not the only one experiencing it. Connect with children and spouses, keeping the line of communication open as the children understand the divorce. From this article, I want to encourage you that it is not easy, but it can be improved, and that you apply the information by finding a counselor for yourself and your loved ones.