A man needs to make sex exciting for a woman.

When women see men, they think of sex. You could also say that men think the same when they see women. But the reasons are very different. When men see women, they get excited and think about having sex. But women are not turned on by men. They only know that men are determined to have sex. A woman accepts that men notice her. But the real pleasure is getting the attention of a man she admires. She knows that if he finds her attractive, he will invest effort in getting to know her. That is the emotional power of a woman to be desired that men do not experience. For gay men, her sexual drive can deplete any similar emotional reward.

Women don’t think of sex in terms of explicit erotic arousal and genital stimulation the way men do. Women often think of sex in terms of a man’s sexual passion and in romantic scenarios. A man’s desire is communicated in his sense of purpose, the firmness of his kiss and his touch on his body. His desire to possess and penetrate her may be evident.

Especially at the beginning of a sexual relationship, a woman can enjoy her man’s erection and the fact that he wants to have sex with her. She can enjoy herself by pleasuring her and engaging in loving and affectionate foreplay. Intercourse itself is an opportunity to kiss and caress. She may be motivated to engage in explicit genital stimulation. Some women say they stop having orgasms. But you can’t forget how to orgasm. They confuse emotional factors early in relationships with orgasm.

Most women realize that men appreciate it when they present themselves in a sexy way. Men have a harder time understanding that women want them to behave in a certain way to satisfy their needs. A woman accepts a man as a lover when she considers him a worthy partner and partner. She feels love for him when he responds to her desire to take care of him. Women’s nurturing instincts make them want a man to be sensitive to the social and emotional aspects of relationships that are important to women. Women do this when they care about a man. A woman stops doing this when a man has repeatedly rejected her attempts to care for his well-being.

Women don’t particularly desire sex, but it’s a small price to pay for all the benefits men provide. At least to start. Over years and decades, the sexual charge increases as sex becomes increasingly meaningless in emotional and romantic terms. A woman knows from experience that whatever sexual game a partner engages in as a warm-up, sexual activity with a man always ends with intercourse. By agreeing to quickies or sex in unusual places (not always as a bedtime routine) a man allows a woman to be the object of her desire without her having to exert as much effort.

Men pleasure women in part to enjoy their own arousal. They are also motivated to work hard not to feel guilty that sexual pleasure is so one-sided. But for a woman the pleasure is not so great as to insist. So, a woman waits for a man to offer himself, and if she feels like a little sensual pleasure, she allows him to caress and massage her body.

Some women enhance their own apparent sexual prowess (and that of a lover) by faking an orgasm to meet the expectations of pornography. Other men complain that their partners don’t make any effort to make sex exciting for them. They never articulate why a woman should do this. But it’s clear that women don’t naturally provide the arousal that men ideally expect.

Marriage and motherhood don’t make women feel sexy because a woman feels drained, unappreciated, and unattractive. A woman feels sexy when she knows that she is attractive to men. So being kid-free and dressing up for a romantic dinner can help. Thinking about having sex when a woman is aware of a man’s attention to her over dinner can increase anticipation and create a more passionate act. When a man admires her, the woman feels more willing to have sex because she feels more appropriate. When sex becomes expected or mundane, resentment and boredom set in.

Romance is associated with the time before a couple has a sexual relationship. During this period, each person continues to invest in the other. But over time and with the security of marriage, they take each other for granted. Men become self-absorbed in their own importance as breadwinners. They then wonder why women don’t want to have sex with them.

Men enjoy sexually stimulating a lover. It never seems like a strange coincidence to them that sex is exactly what they are looking for. Men need to become more socially compliant and participate in the investment in a couple’s sex life if they want to interest a woman in having sex with them. Considering their interest in sex, men don’t make much effort to bring variety to sex. Men’s sexual needs tend to be very easily satisfied through intercourse, but this does not make a woman feel loved and appreciated.

Men are simple… We fall in love with your tits and your ass! And we stay because of what you’re willing to do with them. So if you want to win over a man, you don’t need ten steps, you need one… it’s called blowjob! (film ‘The ugly truth’ 2009)