Are you looking for more sexual pleasure in your marriage? This is how it can happen

Many couples, once the honeymoon period is over, still want more sexual pleasure from their relationship, and sometimes more! I recently wrote an article on sexual problems and asked what are some of the problems that couples can encounter regarding their sex life.

A quick reminder, or if you haven’t had a chance to watch it yet, I posed a few simple questions couples want answers to; First, do you feel like you really have sexual problems in your marriage? Second, do you feel like you want to make love more (or less) often than your partner? Finally, do you think and feel that your partner does not work hard enough to give you the sexual satisfaction you want?

I went on to say that you are not alone if you are experiencing some issues that are troubling you; Many couples go through very difficult times when it comes to their sex life, but those difficult times can and are overcome. There are so many positive things that you can do to solve your sexual problems. To help get you back on track toward a healthy and satisfying sex life with your partner, let’s look at some simple guidelines to help you get the sexual pleasure you (rightfully!) want.

Number one. Ladies; let’s end up with a very misleading notion. There is an assumption that men know everything there is to know about making love and how to satisfy a woman. This notion is false because it’s simply not true that men know ‘everything’, including about you. No matter how long you’ve been partners, there will be things he won’t find out…unless she’s willing to be open and explain everything about them to him.

The clear facts are simple; no two women are completely the same, there really is no way your partner can feel what you feel, or what you enjoy when you’re in bed together (or elsewhere!), if you don’t make the effort to tell them. Your first job is to communicate with him and make sure he knows what you really enjoy. The same is true of man; him talk to his partner and be sure to find out what he really enjoys and likes, what can really turn her on to give her the stimulating set of pleasures. Always keep in mind that if she is not currently turned on by sex, it could be for any number of reasons. Being overworked is often a sex drive killer, or maybe she’s preoccupied with other family issues…the list is almost endless. Always, always, support! Whatever you do, don’t punish her. The same goes for you ladies; if you’re not in the mood, look for the underlying causes that may be making you not want to have sex. By working through the problems, it could give you the answer to what is failing.

number two; She begins by communicating with her partner about as many things that concern her as she can. By talking, you can open up to each other and be honest about how you feel. Sometimes discussing private things can be awkward, maybe even embarrassing, but you need to know what others are thinking and feeling. Whatever you do, put potential embarrassment aside and communicate with each other.

Number Three. Very often it is thought that the man should be the one to initiate the sexual act. So please pay attention and dispose of that silly theory with the trash where it belongs! The simple fact of the matter is that many men really love it when the woman in her life takes control and initiates sex. So, all you ladies out there, don’t get used to lying there while your man does all the rapprochement work. He tries and learns to be as receptive as he can and take control when she wants it. Maybe leave it there while you get things moving in the right direction. If you don’t take the initiative, it will inevitably lead to a boring time for both of you, and it is this attitude that will send your sex life into a tailspin.

Number four. Don’t be afraid to show your partner what you would like them to do. There are times when using words and verbally explaining what you really like won’t cut it. If you think about it, it’s much nicer when he makes love to you that he helps you by moving his paws to places where you like to be stroked and touched. Try to whisper sexy things in your ear about what you want your partner to do because he really is very sensual. There will be times when your partner hits the right nerve and does something that you find really pleasurable and exciting, so be sure to let them know. As? Letting your partner know that you like what they are doing to you! And that you want much more!

The bottom line for getting a bigger share of sexual pleasure in your marriage is COMMUNICATION. Think about it; if they can’t speak openly then they will need help. If you try and make the effort to communicate with each other, it will pay big dividends and ultimately bring you that much closer. Sexual pleasure will then naturally follow.