Finding peace and joy after grief

Twelve steps of essential actions

When significant loss or heartache occurs, it can leave you dazed, shocked, and filled with pain. You are likely in new and very unknown territory. You may feel like a blindfolded person, sitting at a table, trying helplessly and hopelessly to put together 15,000 pieces of a puzzle of pain. You need help to make sense of it all. The circumstances that led to your injury may even result in your inability to fully recover, but taking every opportunity to reclaim your life should be your primary goal. The poet Rumi suggests an important idea to ponder:

“Sadness prepares you for joy. It violently drags everything out of your house, so that the new joy can find a space to enter. Shake the yellow leaves from the branch of your heart, so that in their place fresh leaves can grow and Green. Pull out rotten roots so that new roots hidden underneath have room to grow. “

Finding healing, peace and joy after pain involves specific conditioning of the mind and positioning of the heart. It requires a constant satisfaction of joy, trust and hope. Joy is something that is deep within and does not go hastily. It is more than a passing happiness. Below are 12 action steps to help you understand and heal your pain and find new purpose and greater peace and joy:

1-Tell your story. One of the most powerful ways to heal pain is to bring your feelings, emotions, and thoughts to the surface. Sharing your grief experience can be healing. Writing down your innermost thoughts that you can come back to and remind yourself of what you feel and want can be uplifting. If you don’t keep a journal or journal, get started today. It is highly recommended that you start a grief relief journal or diary. There is great empowerment in expressing your pain. This is for your own use so that you can write down your thoughts and feelings without the need to filter or edit what is going on inside your mind or heart. Start today.

2-Today sixteen the flower pedals of renewal and rebirth.

Renewal and rebirth begin and end with you. Start now. How you do it is a personal matter, but it is vital to finding happiness, new peace and joy. Also, seek God’s help to give you more inspiration, strength, and wisdom to carry the cross of your pain. Consider saying a prayer silently. If you don’t have practice, that’s fine; You will feel more comfort and peace as you continue to let humble thoughts flow. The more you do it with consistency and sincere effort, the greater the chance for inspiration from God. Reflect deeply on all the steps you could take to renew hope and be reborn in a fuller life.

3-Count your grateful moments.

Be specific. Some blessings will be great and some will be small. Everyone Counts! As you count your blessings, you will be amazed at how many things you are grateful for. Count the blessings one by one. Realizing what you are grateful for will give you strength in times of discouragement. Acting on your intentions to be grateful can bring you rich blessings. Practice gratitude every day to foster gratitude in your life. Write at least five things in your journal that you are grateful for today.

4-The duel never ends.

Due to a terrible painful condition, her life changed. Only when you understand what pain is and how powerfully it can imprison your thoughts, emotions, and even your whole person, can you begin to work on your pain. Grief is a passage of time, not a place to stay. However, the pain is not cured or completely cured. The duel can continue. Reconciling your pain condition brings the pain you experience into harmony. This leads to healing. Sixteen all the moments of each day to overcome loss, pain and pain.

5-Pain is the price of living the circumstances of life.

When her pain engulfed him, his life was probably permanently altered. Pain is not a lack of faith or a sign of weakness. What you do with your pain is your decision. Understanding your pain and what you can do about healing helps you begin your healing journey to a healthier and happier place in your life. Make a list of the 5 steps you need to take to understand and reconcile your complex grief. Start following them today.

6-Reassess your perspective

You may need to assess what has changed and explore what is still possible for you after a life-changing incident. It may take some time and patience for you to regain your balance. Begin by recognizing that some of the changes that have occurred in your life as a result of your experiences will likely be permanent. List at least three actions you can take over the next week that will propel you toward greater happiness. Consider having your new path unfold as you go. Bravely continue your journey as you embrace the hope of greater understanding, peace, and joy to come.

7-Find a duel partner.

Trying to survive your pain without the help of others for comfort and support is not a good option. Trying to get over your pain will only hamper your progress and may even cause you to become severely depressed due to loneliness and isolation. It is essential that you seek the support of others and find ways to express your needs. A relationship with your partner is essential for your well-being and happiness. Sometimes all you need to do is ask. But you must ask yourself: “I need you to spend time with me and here are my needs …” Crying with someone can sometimes be more healing than crying alone. Those who know they have someone to turn to in times of crisis or need can receive great comfort and peace, even hope.

8-You are not alone. Due to your deep pain, it can be extremely difficult for you to believe that there may be hope, joy, and peace in your life right now. If you are experiencing a time of pain in your life, recognize that your journey of pain is unique, take comfort in the hope and wisdom of those who have walked the path of pain before you. Can you let literally thousands more, who have reason to cry, give you hope? You are not alone. Think of 3 ways others have been able to reconcile their pain. Consider searching the Internet for stories of how others have successfully overcome their difficult challenges. Let these examples empower you.

9-Accept every positive moment. By doing so, you can better find healing, harmony, hope, peace, and joy in life. Peace and joy go together. While it is necessary to go through the grieving process, don’t let pain take away your faith in God, love of life, and most importantly, hope. Don’t be slow; Be proactive each day in seeking each hopeful and beneficial moment of each possibility of inner peace.

10-Turn inward and be compassionate.

Right now, figuring out how to turn inward and be compassionate to yourself is perhaps one of your most important needs. Accepting your feelings of loss is essential to your survival and future happiness. The pain of a life-altering circumstance may never completely go away. Learning to reconcile your life after a time of loss requires self-care and continued loving attention so that you can overcome your grief.

11-Reconnect with your passions. Due to agony and anguish, you may have temporarily withdrawn from people, places, or things that you previously enjoyed. While a temporary pause may be necessary in your healing process, isolation is not a healthy and beneficial long-term strategy. In your Pain Relief Journal, write down the people, places, or things that have brought you the most joy and satisfaction in your life. Ask yourself how many of these people, places, or things can still be a part of your life now. Consider how long it has been since you became engaged to them. Make a plan. Schedule some time each day to get involved in something or with someone you’ve previously enjoyed. Give yourself the gift of something to look forward to each day. Have faith, hope and joy will return.

12-Gather precious moments.

Seek to enjoy life and its gifts. Recognize the value of living in the moment. Believe in possibilities beyond what you can see today. You are invited to collect the events of each day, as if you were gathering precious moments like flowers. Are you? Experiment with ideas and actions to find the ones that resonate with you the most and support your healing. Taking action on new ideas and concepts can help you find new purposes and understanding. Find the solutions that can support your healing. Take action today and always.

“I am responsible. Although I cannot prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things happen; the way I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life.” I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the severity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have: life itself. “~ Walter Anderson

If you cannot find reasons to be joyful, your perspective must change. Peace and joy go together. Grief presents not only pain of the heart and mind, but also new possibilities and new roots for growth.