Get your ex back and avoid the Yo-Yo effect

Your partner has broken up with you. You may feel almost desperate to get your ex back. But before you jump to the bottom of the pool, you need to look before you jump. At least think about this advice if you hope to have a long-lasting relationship with them.

Now that it’s officially separated, it could be very tempting to do anything to get them back. Emotions soar and it hurts to be without them. This is also a very emotional time for your ex and there is always the possibility that at some point he will think better of it and decide that he may have made a mistake by breaking up with you. It’s wise to proceed with caution now because you may find that it actually benefits you to make your ex sweat a bit.

Sometimes an ex’s mind can change again and it can be very tempting to jump the gun and allow it to come back into your life too easily. You’ll soon find yourself on a great journey as your ex flips back and forth trying to decide whether or not he loves you. This can be very devastating for you emotionally and is commonly referred to as the Yo-Yo effect, as they move you back and forth in your relationship. The biggest problem with this scenario is that the next time your ex won’t be so tempted to run back to you when he starts to have a change of heart.

This is why it is important to keep your distance and not allow your ex to return to your life immediately as easily as they might be tempted right now. As much as you dream of holding them in your arms (in addition to other hobbies), take 2 minutes to think things through before welcoming them with open arms. It is necessary for your own mental health and for the future of your relationship to move slowly and carefully.

The good news is that having this influence on the relationship will allow you to solidify your partner’s devotion to you. This technique is often suggested by many relationship gurus to create a stronger bond between you and your ex, as your ex goes to great lengths to finally get back with you. It’s almost as if the tables are turned and an ex who was so compelled and determined to end a relationship suddenly begins to pursue the relationship they previously wanted to get rid of.

It’s almost like an invisible game of tug of war as the dynamics of your relationship change. Once it seems like you’re not pulling the relationship, your ex will, naturally and almost uncontrollably, start doing everything he can to get back with you. This is the natural way that people react in such cases and it can be a powerful tool to help rebuild a relationship.