How to write a wedding speech: 6 tips for writing a wedding speech

Giving a wedding speech or a wedding toast is difficult to do. Sometimes the hardest part is writing your wedding speech. Where do you start? What do you say in your wedding toast? How do you write the best man’s speech? How do you write a bridesmaid speech? See 6 Tips for Writing an Amazing Wedding Speech.

1) Play to your strengths. Don’t think the pressure is on being someone you’re not, are you funny? Great, everyone loves to laugh. Don’t feel like it HAS to be funny. If your strength is the emotional thing, don’t try to leave the audience rolling on the ground, tug at their heartstrings. People get too nervous giving a speech, but you don’t have to if you keep it simple and real!

2) Start with a story. Nobody wants a long presentation – a story begins with a bang. It attracts your audience and engages them. Also, they are more natural! You won’t have to rehearse it, all you have to do is tell it! This could be a fun memory you’ve shared or something more serious, maybe a scenario that really showed the groom’s strength of character or the bride’s incredible heart, etc.

3) Pick a few key things that you like about both the bride and groom, before you start writing your speech. What are its best features? The best wedding speeches usually only have a couple of key points, and once you’ve chosen yours, completing the rest of the speech is much easier. If you are writing your speech as a bridesmaid, you will choose one more pair for the bride than the groom. If you are the best man writing your speech, choose a few more for the groom than the bride. Make sure they are REAL things that you and others like – if you say that the bride has a motherly heart and everyone knows that she hates children, people will know that you are faking it. If you are not very close to your friend’s new spouse, then emphasize the speech towards the friend you know and love.

4) Once you have your points, think of a story, quote, or metaphor for each one. Now is the time to take a trip back in time and think about all those fun times you spent together. This makes the speech easier to deliver because it is much more natural and will also make it much more interesting than if you were reading it straight off the page. The stories, quotes, and metaphors strengthen each of your points and give the speech a sense of progression. If you can’t think of any stories that will work for your points, ask your other friends or parents – someone will have one!

5) Wrap it up. Once you have your points, it’s time to put it all together in the incredible wedding speech of the century! To do this, take the things you just said you love about them and explain why they are a good match. He’s funny, is she smart? Perfect, he is the next Ray Ramano and she can be his agent. Do you both have a heart to help people? Impressive, together they will change the world. This can be serious or funny; the main thing is to take the time to say why they are such a good couple.

6) Toast the bride and groom, wish them an amazing future together and thank them for the amazing wedding. Then sit back and pat yourself on the back. You just gave the best best man or bridesmaid speech of all time.