Human social behavior

It is becoming increasingly clear that the key to leadership is servitude. This is counterintuitive. For example, a leader is constantly seen as a president being cared for hand and foot by the secret service and other government entities. But in reality their lives are rigid and hard, and they face the burden of fixing an economy or making decisions about when to go to war. If that is not enough; every public speech presents the threat of murder; and mistakes give way to crucification. Would any of you want to be Bush right now? No. And on top of all that, the constant stress of the presidency can take 10 years off the life of a human being! The president takes all these risks; for our own good! The truth is that a president is a servant, serving everyone in his country, including other government officials. This example is blatantly obvious, but in everyday situations we don’t realize that leaders are serving. I am not talking about delegated authorities; I mean the leaders of your social circles; like that funny girl in your work that everyone listens to and likes to be around; They like them because they serve most people! Note: this is a biblical principle.

Leaders are forced to always add value. Adding value is not easy or that much fun (value is all it adds to your day). And it’s risky too! Most people feel much better sitting down and that others add value to them; never get out of your comfort zone. However, a person in bondage (leader) reaches out and brings value to other people at the expense of their own feelings. That is disinterest. Altruism is an effect of being safe. Once there is no need to worry about yourself; natural inspiration is born to help others. Social success is near. However, most of the people who yearn for social improvement; they will lose their success; because their attention is on themselves. The only real social improvements you should want to make are those that answer the questions “How can I bring more value to other people?” and “how can I help as many people as I can?” Giving up all your own selfish desires is the most important self-improvement you can do.

Improve in everything you do!

The first thing we must accept is that people are not as logical as we might think. 80% of an interaction is automatic, most of what you say or do is based on past experience, only 20% of what you are doing is thought. Which means that we are almost purely emotional beings. So put on your chemist jackets and get ready to manipulate emotional and chemical reactions (emotions are chemicals).

Many guys assume that adding value is simply being overly optimistic and they throw a lot of genuine compliments. While this is a big part, remember the 60, 30, 10 rule. Which means that what you say only accounts for 10% of the interaction. 60% is body language, so we’ll tackle this first.

When you are around someone, your brain creates all kinds of emotions and releases chemicals in your body. So before this gets too complicated, let me explain the concept of duplication to you. People are just mirrors of what surrounds them, you have probably heard the phrase “I am a product of my environment”.

Although it is commonly used to summarize someone’s entire life, it is equally true for day-to-day interaction. All you have to do is display body language that shows the feelings you want others to feel when you are present! For example, when someone smiles at you, it’s almost impossible not to smile back, especially if the smile is genuine. From a biological point of view, every time someone smiles, serotonin is released into their body. If a man walks with his shoulders back and his chest out, it shows that he feels safe and secure and thus makes others feel the same.

It is impossible to recognize a newcomer without matching their body language. This view is tested when you hear someone say, to a nervous friend, “calm down man, you’re making me nervous.” Therefore, nervous energy is rejected and never reflected (nervousness is the essence of uncool). There are an infinite number of things you can do to detract from a group, and I’m not going to attempt to list them here. As a general rule of thumb, learn to feel safe wherever you are and whatever you are doing. Literally go to bars, clubs, etc. And learning to feel safe, for a stubborn guy like me, I just learned to reject nervous energy. In conclusion, if you can relax people using your own body language, you will be ahead of the majority!

Now let’s look at tone, tone is also a high-leverage way to cheer people up. For example, have you ever been to a party and a really loud funny guy walks in? Everyone else generally shuts up and makes way for that guy and hangs on his every word. Now this guy can be funny, but he tends to have mediocre humor, which makes everything he says ten times louder is the volume of his voice. If you really pay attention, you will notice that some people are already laughing even before he reaches the end point (before he goes too far, realize that humor is not the only way to be social, although it does cause bonding. of the human couple). Volume generally puts everyone else in a more relaxed and beta mindset and heightens the emotions of the people around you. For example, if you were celebrating because your team won the NBA Finals, would you respond to some random guy who would try to tell you something if his voice volume was low? No, because answering him means that you have to fall to his level first, it would be almost impossible for you to turn around and keep yelling and answering him simultaneously. What if you lowered your voice and your energy level to respond to him? You would lose your emotional high, and then you would fight to raise your emotional level again to celebrate more.

Here’s a volume exercise that you can draw from my personal repertoire; it’s called “ABC Yell!” The lungs control the volume. The more capacity your lungs have, the louder you can scream and speak. The ABC YELL! is to help you use the capacity you already have.

1. Inhale and then say A as loudly as you can.

2. Inhale and then say B as loudly as you can.

3. GO to Z.

Do this for thirty minutes a day, however if you feel dizzy don’t panic, just take a break.

The next exercise is to increase lung capacity, it is called move and do cardiovascular exercises!

When I was in high school I participated in cross country through this I gained 99% lung capacity. (I’m so cool, ha!)

Another attractive quality of your words is the tone. A deeper shade is considered more attractive than a higher shade for both men and women. Also a deep tone is more striking. People will follow a deep-pitched person before a high-pitched person. In fact, if you watch movies, you will notice that the comic relief is usually the person with the highest pitch.

Tone exercise (this time no cool name)

Grab his neck with your left hand, just above the windpipe. Next, place your right hand on the lower region of your chest. Now hum, take note of where you feel the vibration. If it is in your throat, then you speak from the bottom of your throat along with 70% of other people. Now focus on bringing the vibration from your neck to the upper part of your stomach, you can do this by widening the muscles in your windpipe. Vibrate on your stomach for about another 30 minutes a day, you’ll start talking like Barry White in no time. ha ha!

~ Written by Brandon Swain (Trojan)