Love is what love does

If there is any word in this world that has lost its place in relationships, it is love. The world has substituted love for everything from people to money, careers, things, sex, feelings, etc. The saddest thing about all this is that the replacements have crept into the church. Most relationships among God’s people are now a reflection of what is in the world rather than a replica of what is in the Word. Love itself has not changed. It is based solely on your actions, what you do, what you give, each of your acts of kindness.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son …” Saint John 3:16 NIV

Love is verified by works of kindness. It has not lost its shine, its purpose, its momentum, or its mission. It has done and will always do what it was originally intended to do. To receive the full manifestation of it, we have to renounce our own selfish, inconsiderate, and insensitive perception and definition of love and assume its true true meaning. Because the Bible defines love as God.

“He who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4: 8 NIV

The definition of love is so simple and straightforward, but it is your people who have made it so complex. In this generation, most efforts to find love start with dreams of settling down with the slim biceps, the nice body, the beautiful hair, and that exceptionally financial-friendly person, not realizing that this settling down mentality is rather in lines of settling for the copycat version of love. Understand that having someone who is handsome and beautiful with money is not the problem. The dilemma is not deciphering what prevails over the other in the relationship. They love you Or have they fallen madly in love with what you have? This is not a gender specific error as it applies to both men and women. People have simply reconstructed the meaning of love and its attributes to suit themselves and their own personal agenda, and they wonder why relationships often result in death. Understand that when it comes to building anything, especially relationships, the initial start of construction, the foundation, influences the assembly of the entire building. If the foundation of your relationship is built on more than just things that are designed to make it last and withstand the blows of heat, rain, and winds, sooner or later it will collapse. At some point, no matter how good you look or appear to others, it will go down. It matters how your love life is built.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain …” Psalm 127: 1 KJV

What bait are you using to attract love?

On a journey for love, we tend to show exactly what we want others to like or love about us. For example, both women and men, whether consciously or unconsciously, tend to highlight tangible things like cars, houses, money, etc. Financial, physical, career, and ministry statements are included. Please don’t misinterpret this to suggest that all of those things don’t have weight in relationships, because to some extent they do. However, in the pursuit of love, what you really need to emphasize is your true genuine qualities: no makeup, body parts, financial status, or anything like that. Showing all of these external qualities draws attention away from your true self. Therefore, lead others to love what you do best; prompting them to emphasize their body parts, careers, and money status more than you do. At the end of the day, when true love comes, it is looking for you. This rings true in all relationships, whether you are looking for a spouse, friend, job, business, or even ministry relationships. You would be surprised to see how many people fall in love with the idea of ​​marriage or wedding more than the person they are married to or are married to. Many relationships are held together by finances; as many are also intact as long as you retain your physique. You have to remember that the adhesive you use to hold your relationship together will hold as long as you use the proper glue. If the glue you use loses its ability to adhere, anything that sticks together risks falling apart. Having said that, to ensure true and genuine love in your relationships, take advantage of the glue, the love, the God who is able to make you stick and last. This is the love that is defined and generated by God.

Your relationship with God is reflected

Your relationship with God is a direct reflection of your relationship with others. For that reason, the Bible requires that we love God first, then others as ourselves. No wonder we are not ready to love others until we learn to love God. Because loving God teaches us how to love ourselves and others. If your love for others is not aligned or in the right perspective, then your relationship with God is the same: questionable. We must be careful and intentional not to choose to make a life with people who do not have a relationship with God. On the other hand, it is equally risky to seek relationships with those who do love God, while you yourself lack that area. That will attract a lot of confusion for both of you involved. If you have trouble loving God, you will have trouble loving God’s people or daughter. We are admitting to allowing others to love us according to the standards of the world and not the standards of the Word when we are not strategizing in relationships. Do not choose to accept reduced or imitation love instead of abundant love that only comes from God. If that means having to wait on the Lord, then wait.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but joins in truth. Love suffers everything, believes everything, hopes for everything, endures everything. Love never ends … “1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 ESV