Male propaganda: saying that women should enjoy sex

If men and women wanted the same thing, there would be no sexual politics. Men and women disagree because they want different things from each other. Most women want loving company and family. It is this desire to have children that continues to make women dependent on men. Women need something to offer in return. That thing is sex. Anyone who suggests that pleasure is equal does not understand the laws of nature.

Men are taller, heavier, and stronger than women. Women don’t fight like men do. Only a very naive person would suggest that men do not use this physical advantage to get what they want from women. Men do not encourage women to work. In fact, men openly acknowledge that they like women to be financially dependent on them. Men know that they can use this financial advantage to make women feel compelled to offer them regular sex in return.

Women’s desire for loving company drives their desire for relationships with men. But given the tendency for men to focus their life’s efforts on their own interests, women often want children too. Women’s drive to have children is not as obvious or urgent as men’s sex drive, but it nevertheless helps in successful reproduction. It is an amazing phenomenon and it is not entirely clear how it arises. Women enjoy intimate company, which men rarely provide. Women also like to take care of cute pets and little children who depend on them.

Men’s views on sex are much more politically compelling. Men largely promote their own opinion because it is vitally important to them. Sexual politics is created by men’s desire to have sex. Men will not accept what women say about sex unless they agree with their own opinion. Specifically, they want to hear that a woman wants to have sex as much as they do.

Men are not attracted to all women. They are attracted to sexually willing women. Of course, men are confident that their view of sex will prevail. Women are too embarrassed to offer their own vision of sex.

Men have always defined women’s sexuality for themselves. Men assume they have sexual instincts that women lack. Men have the concept of female orgasm. The ego of “You obviously haven’t met the right man to make you orgasm!” indicates the male perspective. Some women politicians also support the male view of female sexuality as popular with men.

Men want to believe that women can have an orgasm from intercourse because this could make them more sexually willing. But this is not logical. The evidence of the female orgasm would be the enthusiasm of women for intercourse. Pornography acts as an emotional safety blanket that assures men that women are always willing to have sex so that their sexual outlet is guaranteed.

Male propaganda far outweighs any attempt by women to correct men. This is due to several reasons.

• Men’s interest in talking about sex ad nauseam far outweighs women’s extremely low or negative interest in the topic.
• Men are physically and psychologically more forceful than women, so they can use brute force to make their own opinion heard.
• Women want to be attractive to men. They can only do this if they silently ignore men’s claims that sex is great.
• Women depend on the support of men to have children. So women have an emotional investment in their relationship with a man.

Ask a woman from any developing country and she will tell you that sex is for male pleasure and for having babies. Try asking the same question to a woman from a developed country and you will get silence. In our bravado-driven society, women don’t want to feel subjugated by men. The female orgasm justifies the role of women in an activity that focuses on male pleasure. The fact that women’s lifestyles are subsidized by their partners is overlooked.

Research has shown that trying to brainwash women into believing they can enjoy sex as much as men does not lead to more sex for men. The idea that women should enjoy sex existed before any research was done. But this belief was always a male view. Men’s sex drive means they depend on women for sex and the sex industry sells fantastic insight into women’s sexuality.

Men revel in the sexual pleasure they enjoy, and worse, they boast of the sexual pleasure they think women enjoy. They never realize that such jubilation is one-sided. Male propaganda silences women due to implicit sexual inappropriateness. Women get tired of men talking about the pleasure they enjoy without any sensitivity to the fact that women’s minds and bodies don’t respond in the same way. Very few women talk about orgasm. Women make sure that sexual references are avoided in their presence by showing their dislike non-verbally. Silent abstention is easy and keeps the peace. Most people would be tempted by an offer of financial security for life. This is what marriage represents for women. There is little to be gained by confronting a conflict with a man who supports the family.

As the feminist group the Red Sox said, for many women marriage is one of the few forms of employment available. (Hite 1993)