Do you want to contact a recently deceased loved one?

If you’ve ever lost a loved one, you know how painful it is to cope with their death and loss.

“I want to communicate with my deceased / friend / partner / father” is a common request for information on my website.

First of all, if this is your query at this time, I am very sorry for your loss and I am sorry and I understand your pain. I would like to try to explain why, in my experience and from my spiritual point of view, your deceased loved ones may not be in contact for a while, and also try to give them some comfort.

I tend to find that deceased loved ones do not show up or communicate at any time shortly after their passing.

Some say that it takes too much of your energy to reach even an experienced medium; I am not sure I hold this as, on rare occasions, I have felt a recently deceased spirit come to me within hours.

The difference here is that I was able to handle his presence emotionally. The people closest to them would not have been able to handle him emotionally either or perhaps they would in fact be able to feel his presence due to the confusion they were in.

Some say they don’t get it that fast because they have to do a “business” or a “life review” first. This doesn’t make a lot of sense to me, but it depends entirely on your own belief system. You may have a different philosophy than mine and can relate to this and can understand that they need some time on the other side before visiting again.

Personally, I think the reason the spirits of recently deceased loved ones stay away, or at least not obvious in the first few months after their passing, is not about them. It’s about us.

It is for us, for our own well-being, and for our mental and emotional health.

I know it’s hard to hear because we want them back SO BAD it hurts, and you think you’re really ready to see or hear them. But I think the spirit tends to stay away to help with our grief. It reinforces their absence to allow us to process that they will no longer be there. That is why they also often do not reach the mediums with a message that they are still present, it will just annoy us.

Think about it, have you ever tried to get over an emotional breakup while having to see your ex regularly? In the first few days it is very difficult, so it is often easier to dedicate yourself to hating them than to continue to acknowledge your positive feelings for them.

So maybe this helps instead. If they can’t be with you, maybe I can tell you what you really want to hear.

The three most common questions I hear from those left behind about loved ones in spirit are:

‘Are you okay?’, ‘Do you know that I love / forgive you?’ and ‘Will you forgive me?’

I firmly believe, and have discovered through many years of spiritual communication, that once someone has passed away, they will surely know how much you loved and will continue to love them.

My belief is that they become part of a great energy that I believe is unconditional love and they no longer care about human emotions. They see the bigger picture. They see the interconnectedness of life and death, of everything. And they can’t help but keep loving you, forgiving you, and they certainly don’t judge you.

I must tell you that I have never met a spirit that has gone through to hold on to the human conditions that we become accustomed to. In passing, they become much more aware and enlightened, letting go of the emotional traps that come with being human, and forgiving and letting go so much that they may have worried them while they were alive.

Some other points that can help with the grieving process.

When the memories of your deceased loved one start to fade, I really don’t think they feel hurt by this. It is natural that you can go on living a life without them in their physical form. They know it and they want you to continue living your life to the fullest.

I also believe ABSOLUTELY 100% that they will feel loved and no harm, pain or suffering whatsoever.

I really hope this helps you in difficult times, or with dilemmas and pain that you may be facing.